By Judy Bume
Delacorte Press, ©2012
ASIN: B007I5QMK2
Kindle File Size: 1515KB
Paperback: 177 pages
What a wonderful little book! While it seems simplistic, perhaps written for a middle-grade reader, Margaret’s story is deeper than it first appears. Its themes of puberty, menstruation and sexuality, and the exploration of religion have prompted bans in many circles, including the very elementary school attended by the author’s children.
This book is really for cisgender girls, who will know the angst that comes from their first period, worrying about kissing boys (or girls), and wondering if you’ll ever fill out your bra. It boggles my mind why any organization could or would ban a book that would help a young girl understand what her body is going through, and how other girls handle the emotions involved, especially after reading it. All Margaret’s angst, worrying that because she wasn’t “big” up top and she wasn’t the first one to start her cycles—it seems that story would be comforting and/or reassuring to other girls facing the same issues. It’s always reassuring to know, when going through something new, you aren’t the only one to have felt this way.
But it’s more than that. Margaret’s family is one of mixed faiths, or rather *no* faith. Her father is from a Jewish family, while her mother is from a Christian family. Both families want Margaret to join *their* faith, but Margaret isn’t having any of it. She is going to find out for herself what faith she is, and there will be no rushing it. That doesn’t mean she isn’t spiritual. Far from it. Margaret talks to god all the time, like god is standing right there, or maybe breathing on the other end of a phone line. And when she doesn’t find god in any of the churches or temples she visits, she tells god flat out – “I didn’t feel you at all. Not the way when I talk to you at night. Why God? Why do I only feel you when I’m alone?”
I found this innocent honesty in the search for god endearing. It also struck a chord in me, since I talk to god the same way, as if she’s sitting next to me. When asked, I will say I’m Wiccan. But in truth, I don’t think I fit into any specific religious box. Like Margaret, I still feel closest to god when I am alone.
Are You There God is a deceptively deep exploration of growth and learning, and while it is written from the perspective of an 11-year-old girl, its truths are relevant to those of all ages. Highly recommended.